I have been there. I'll lead up to it in a second. When you get married it seems it can really hurt your growth musically. You take care of kids or spouse and never get to evolve musically. Some do, most don't. I was married for 16 years and my music was never supported what so ever. I was a dead stick. Now that I have been divorced for several years, it has opened a whole new world for me. Music is my life. It is and will always be. My kids support me and love me. Why did I wait so long to figure this out? Don't know . Now I'm an old man and it may be too late for me. Always go with what you have the compassion to do and guys quit thinking with your little head or you will wind up like me. I had potential, but my spouse wanted me to have a real job when I could have done more. When I was 16. I was in the spotlight. Now at 47, I have people ask me all the time if I ever became a rockstar? Nope I was pussy whipped into thinking my life working for a grocery store to pay for my wifes Gucci bags and frills was more important than my music. Late I got into the corporate life. I was dead wrong and will never forgive myself for the rest of my life. I'm happy I have my kids. They are grown and I love them dearly. That doesn't change..What If?



Save the music!

Interesting topic m8:)
Well i also wasted the best part of 10yrs doing nothing as i was to busy trying to be someone diffrent for other ppl, i think i realised my love lies with music and what that entails, so i turned my back on all of them and do what i love doing the most:rock:
It was a shame i could not show them the same things i feel when listening or playing music, but im much happier now then i was back then:)
I guess its fair to say we all have regrets in life , atleast we both had the chance to come back to it m8, thats the important thing:rock:

Just remember it's never over until you can no longer pick a guitar up. I would never have thought at 16 I would still be playing a guitar at 44...AND still listening to all types of music...hell, I didn't think I'd [I]see[I] 44!

My wife has no interest in my music...she hasn't heard a single song I've done in three years I suppose. She see's it as an obsession and now a day job so I gave up a long time ago trying to make her like what she doesn't. And, yeah, I did downscale the band thing for a number of years until I was 39. I saw 40 looming and got into an Alice Cooper trib band. First gig was a real eyeopener as there were LOTS of people my age dressed in leather with mohican haircuts, tatoo's bikes etc. THEY hadn't gone away...I had! It made me realise you're as old as you feel and you should play if you love to play.

No offense Dallas, but I feel sorry for you. You seem bitter at marraige and you shouldn't be. It isn't all that bad. Sounds like you may have just chosen the wrong girl, it happens. Janelle has always supported me and my music. Even though I suck, she's my biggest fan. Sure, I don't get the time to do alot musically anymore. With a wife, 3 kids and work there isn't a whole lot of time left. But that's the choice I made 13 years ago and I wouldn't change it for the world:)

Chin up man :boobies: , the thing is success shouldn't be measured in money or material things , you have beautiful children , you have not killed anybody , your healthy and you have lots of friends . Regarding women , i can deduct your bitter of the divorce , but most of us have experienced it , and like myself eventually i found my dream girl .
Its true most women see all things guitar/home recording even bands as one big playground , its true in one sense , so its crucial you involve your partners as often as possible . Dude I'm 47 to , and i don't feel Ive wasted anything , I'm enjoying guitar even more than i did , and I'm sure you will too .

i was 19...seriously thinking about taking up lessons then i met the missus..sold my 65' white tremlo strat that i had owned for a few weeks for £100 to buy her an engagement ring.

still married after 30 years...2 lovely "kids" of 27 and 25.


the strat was lovely and who knows what might have happened after some lessons, but......

bollox to it!!!
if it meant losing what i have...no contest!

hope you can move on and stop looking back at "might haves".

regards,
jim.

As years are passing by
Silence becomes your friend
You see the world in a different way
Don't be afraid of getting old
Life's still full of joy
And the beauty of the past is rejoicing your mind
When days are getting short
And winter comes along
Your life slows down and down
Like a river is getting wide
The worlds have lost their voice
You remember your morning flowing to the endless sea
When days are getting short
And winter comes along
Your life slows down and down
Like a river is getting wide
The worlds have lost their voice
You remember your morning flowing to the endless sea
Life's like a river in the mountain
Life's like a sea without end
Life's like a river in the mountain
Life's like a sea without end
Life's like a river in the mountain
Life's like a sea without end
Life's like a river in the mountain
Life's like a sea without end
(Scorpion's Life's like a river)
For you, man:rock:

I am lucky, my wife that I have known for 21 years now, likes the music!
My ex-wife on the other hand...doh!

No offense Dallas, but I feel sorry for you. You seem bitter at marraige and you shouldn't be. It isn't all that bad. Sounds like you may have just chosen the wrong girl, it happens. Janelle has always supported me and my music. Even though I suck, she's my biggest fan. Sure, I don't get the time to do alot musically anymore. With a wife, 3 kids and work there isn't a whole lot of time left. But that's the choice I made 13 years ago and I wouldn't change it for the world:)

Well you're pretty lucky. A lot of marriages really stink. From an outside observer, situations like yours seem very rare. Something many of us would like to find but just never do; that can make a guy a bit bitter, especially someone with a bit of baggage to boot.

Finding the right partner is like trying to win the lottery three times in a row.

Someone special sent these words to me recently (to try and ease the pain and loss I was feeling ... and still am to a large degree):

"For when the one great scorer comes to score
he tallies not, whether you won or lost
but how you played the game"

Bitterness won't get you anywhere mate, but an early grave with a lot of heartache beforehand.

You have two beautiful daughters who openly tell the world without shame that they love their Dad.

You have talent.

You have friends here (who recognise your talent and want to hear more from you) - I hope I can become one of those. I know I want to.

I'm sure you have friends around you in 'real life' too ...

All in all ... you have a lot to be grateful for and to be content with

Peace :thumb:

Thanks everyone. Yeah I'm bitter, but it always makes me feel better to hear other couples doing well and or went through simular situations that I have. My girls are the world to me. Just wish I had more time with them when they were younger.